Boundaries, Healing Family, & ReleaZing What No Longer Serves...

“Boundaries are not walls to keep others out; they are bridges that keep me rooted in love, respect, and the freedom to BE fully myself.” ~Zendalannette, Reiki Master / Wellness & Well-BEing Architect / Author

Hey Beautiful Soul,

As we close out September 2025, I sit in a deep space of gratitude—not just for life itself, but for the fortitude, willpower, confidence, strength, endurance, and audacity to live fully in my motto:

“Be The First To Put You 1st… In All Ways & Always.”

This truth has been showing up for me in powerful ways, especially in how I establish, honor, and evolve my boundaries.

Why Boundaries Matter in Healing & Evolving

Boundaries are not walls—they are sacred spaces of alignment. They are the energetic lines that remind us where we end and others begin.

Too often, I’ve had to remind myself: other people’s negative words, unsolicited advice, or condescending opinions are not about me. They are projections of their own unhealed wounds. When I refuse to carry those projections, I reclaim my peace.

Family, In-Laws & the Ripple Effect

Family connections are some of the most beautiful—and the most challenging—spaces to practice boundaries. As a daughter, wife, and mum, I’ve seen firsthand how difficult it can be to separate love from expectation, or respect from control.

I’ve been in spaces where people were repulsed simply because I chose to BE fully myself. But here’s what I know to be true: their discomfort was never about me. It was about their internal conflict and their need for control.

And when those ripples extend into in-law relationships or extended family dynamics, it requires even more courage to detach—without disconnecting from myself.

Healing Childhood Wounds & Breaking Patterns

One of the greatest tools that has supported me is Getting the Love You Want. In reflecting on childhood wounds, I realized how often the absence of boundaries we grow up with spills into our marriages—and even into how we raise our children.

When we don’t heal, we recycle. But when we pause, reflect, and choose differently—we break cycles.

Living in Evolved Boundaries

I am grateful today for the healed and evolved boundaries I’ve established. These boundaries allow my closest relationships to nurture, fuel, and feed me in ways that are life-giving.

And yet, I’ll be honest: there are still moments of frustration. There are still spaces where disrespect shows up, especially within family dynamics connected to my role as a wife.

What roots me is this: I have learned to honor myself, even when others do not. I have learned to intentionally detach from the energy of disrespect while still holding love for myself. That is the fruit of healing.

ReleaZing Old Narratives

This journey has been about Healing, Evolving & ReleaZing:

✨ ReleaZing the weight of unhealthy family expectations. 

✨ ReleaZing the patterns of silence or suppression. 

✨ ReleaZing the narratives that no longer serve me—or the generations after me.

And in that ReleaZe, what fills the space is peace, respect, authenticity, and deeper alignment with love.

How I Continue to Make Wellness & Well-BEing My Foundation

This path would not be possible without daily practices that keep me centered and grounded:

🌸 The Four Agreements & The 5 Reiki Principles

🌸 Journaling to Reflect and ReleaZe

🌸 Monthly massages with S.REN.EDI to nurture my body

🌸 Breath work, daily yoga, and meditation

🌸 The 3-PAUSE Self-Check-In to realign during the day

🌸 Navigating with and by my Human Design 

🌸 Daily prayer and intention setting

As a Reiki Master, maintaining chakra balance moment by moment is not just a practice—it is pivotal to how I show up authentically, with clarity, grace, and balance.

Integration Practices for You

🪬Reiki Practice 🪬

Place your hands gently over your heart.

Inhale for 4, Pause for 4, Exhale for 6.

Visualize a violet light surrounding you and affirm: 

“My boundaries are sacred. I am rooted in love, alignment, and respect.”

✨ Journaling Prompt✨

What old family narrative(s) do I need to ReleaZe so I can live fully in my truth?

✨ Affirmation✨

“I honor myself.

I choose alignment over approval.

I create healthy boundaries that heal me

&

ripple into generations after me.”

Beautiful Soul, healing family wounds and navigating boundaries isn’t always easy. It’s layered, it’s messy, and sometimes it’s painful. But it is always worth it.

Every time you choose yourself with love, you create space for deeper connection, healthier relationships, and generational healing.

Have the Audacity to Be Boundaried.

Have the Audacity to Be Whole.

Have the Audacity to Put You 1st… In All Ways & Always.

With Grace & Gratitude, 

~Zendalannette

 Author | Wellness & Well-BEing Architect | Reiki Master

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